The older I get, the more I want to savor time with others. It can be difficult when you’re spending time with people who enjoy overloading themselves with activity and bustle. But for those of us who are naturally inclined to slowing down and creating space for calm and reflection, we have the unique ability to offer our tightly wound friends the blessings and benefits of slowing down, too.
In a culture where everything is a hustle and playing hard, we need people who are intentional about slowing it down. Sometimes the hustle and bustle is unavoidable and it is fun to partake because so many precious memories are made that way.
Let’s also recognize that quieter moments together fill in those sparkly bright spots and have just as much merit.
So, what can you do to foster slow gatherings for the holidays? Here are five ways to consider:
- Create the ambiance.
Low light, soft music, a glowing, crackling fire - either in a real fireplace or one found on YouTube, and good smells all feed and quiet the senses. Creating a warm and comfortable environment achieves the goal of making everyone feel welcomed and at ease.
2. Plan simple and comforting refreshments
Food and drinks for your gathering can be achieved in any way that works for you! Simple nibbles like a charcuterie board and comforting drinks like adult hot chocolate can be the perfect pair to show hospitality to your friends. Or, if you’d like to share in the refreshments, ask your guests to bring a favorite holiday treat that’s special to their family’s tradition.
3. Incorporate a fun and meaningful activity.
If you’d like to do something a little different with your friends, perhaps a craft night or cookie bake-off could be just the thing. Try to choose an activity that encourages connection. Special activities ensure these gatherings are remembered for years to come and can even become an eagerly anticipated tradition!
4. Give it your personal touch.
The wonderful thing about a personal touch is that it’s completely unique to you! It could be a special invitation, a signature treat, small, thoughtful or handmade gifts for each friend or even sharing your own family traditions from growing up. Whatever you choose, it is sure to make your gathering feel special and intimate!
5. Think quality time over perfection.
Remember that this gathering is about nurturing, strengthening and deepening your relationships with your friends! Nothing needs to be perfect, keep it stress-free for yourself and that will filter through to your friends. Laugh a lot, make memories, have deep, meaningful conversations and enjoy each other’s company.
I find that small gatherings of good friends can often make for the most special of get-togethers. There is often more space for vulnerability and emotional connection, both of which build upon a foundation of trust and establish it further. A smaller group makes it easier to foster that slowness you’re trying to achieve in the midst of all the other hustle and bustle.
Let me know what you think! Does hosting a slow gathering this holiday season resonate with you? If so, did any of these ideas inspire you on how you could make it special?
Until next time, I’ll keep the cushions fluffed and the kettle ready!
